Conversation Topics

Before your visit, it will be a good idea to prepare yourself by studying aspects of Chinese culture, history, and geography. Your hosts will appreciate your initiative.

Negative replies are considered impolite. Instead of saying "no", answer "maybe", "I'll think about it", or "We'll see" and get into specifics later. You'll find that the Chinese will do the same.

You may be asked intrusive questions concerning your age, income, and marital status. If you don't want to reveal this information, remain polite and give an unspecific answer. Don't express irritation with the questioner, since "losing face" has such negative implications in this culture.

In Chinese culture, the question "Have you eaten?" is the equivalent to "How are you?" in North America; it's just a superficial inquiry that does not require a literal-minded, detailed answer. Simply answer, "yes", even if you haven't actually eaten.

Make an effort to learn and use at least a few words in Chinese; your initiative will be noticed and appreciated.

You may make inquiries about the health of another's family.

During a meal, expressing enthusiasm about the food you are eating is a welcome, and usually expected, topic of conversation.

Do not be surprised or dismayed if there are periods of silence during your business or dinner conversations. It is a sign of politeness and of thought. Do not be quick to fill the silence with words. Also, be careful not to interrupt during a conversation.

"Small talk" is considered especially important at the beginning of a meeting; any of the topics suggested in the next set of points will be appropriate for this occasion.

Welcome Topics of Conversation:
Chinese scenery, landmarks
Weather, climate, and geography in China
Your travels in other countries
Your positive experiences traveling in China
Chinese art

Topics to Avoid:
Avoid mentioning Taiwan. If the subject comes up, never refer to this country as "The Republic of China" or "Nationalist China." The correct term is "Taiwan Province", or just "Taiwan." Refrain from using the terms such as "Red China" or "Communist China."